To live in the hearts we leave behind is to never die.
- A line from a poem by Scottish poet Thomas Campbell.
"Asatho Ma Sathgamaya, Thamaso Ma Jyothirgamaya, Mruthyorma Amrthangamya". Lead me towards truth from untruth, Lead me towards the light from darkness, Lead me towards immortality from Death.
To live in the hearts we leave behind is to never die.
- A line from a poem by Scottish poet Thomas Campbell.
I was talking to my nephew, who was born in America. He asked me why I would want to return to India eventually. He said his heart bleeds red, white, and blue. I gave him the example of Amrish Puri in DDLJ, who longs to return to Punjab after working in London. There is always a strong desire to return to our roots, especially if we had a happy childhood. But the biggest pull, of course, is the family, especially ageing parents and siblings.
Sadly, a huge portion of the current generation has left India to pursue their careers abroad. The biggest losers were the parents of that generation. Initially, they all expressed joy in learning that their son or daughter has got a job in XYZ corporation and is doing well financially. But then, as years roll by, they realize that being very far from their wards is a curse rather than a blessing. Meeting them is at most once or twice a year. Is the money or the career worth it? At some point, the parents cannot travel for 24 hours.
The entire generation just went with the 'flow' and did not really question the downstream effects of their children not growing up in India. What happens 1 or 2 generations down? Would they still have links to India? Will they still follow all the Hindu rituals? At least the current generation has grown up in India and still has family there.
The realization dawned on me quite late. While young, it is all focused on career, what to work on, buying a house, etc. As you get older, you start questioning the bigger purpose in life. Is money alone everything? What use are those 'career levels' when you get the dreaded phone call about your parents' health back in India, and you have to sit through 24 hours on a plane crying and praying? The peace of mind that one gets while being in India, closer to parents, is priceless. For some people, it is too late.
The great sage of Kanchi used to advise everyone he met to stay in India. Maybe it is divine providence that H1Bs and Green cards are being restricted these days, so at least the next generation can stay together with their families.
"The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King" (2003)
This is what I tell myself on those days whenever I am down.
A day may come when the courage of men fails,
when we forsake our friends
and break all bonds of fellowship,
but it is not this day.
An hour of wolves and shattered shields,
when the age of men comes crashing down,
but it is not this day!
This day we fight!!
When I saw this ad "Every corpse on mount Everest was once an extremely motivated person.", I got reminded of the role of Divine providence.
Never underestimate the role of luck (read divine providence) on the outcomes of companies and people.
Leo’s pitch in Wolf of Wall Street:
The name of the company, Aerotyne International. It is a cutting-edge high-tech firm out of the Midwest awaiting imminent patent approval on the next generation of radar detectors that have both huge military and civilian applications now. Right now, John, the stock trades over-the-counter at 10 cents a share. And by the way, John, our analysts indicate it could go a heck of a lot higher than that. Your profit on a mere $6,000 investment would be upwards of $60,000.
1. Summer 1989. Apoorva Sagodharagal : Earliest movie I remember going to a movie theatre. I went to the Alankar movie theatre in Vellore during my 3rd standard summer holidays with my cousins. The movie was not great. It was the experience that I remember, all the waiting/anticipation of going to the movie theatre with cousins.
2. Deepavali 1992/1993: MMKR. I remember watching this on Doordarshan in Coimbatore. The dialogues were funny. Even though I was in 6th standard or 7th standard, I still recollect the dialogues were so funny (Bhim boy, Bhim boy,...) that it kept me glued to the TV in the evening on Deepavali. I waited for the movie to get over before going out to burst crackers.
3. Summer 1993. Aladdin. I watched this movie with my cousin Narasimhan in the Apsara Theatre (??) in Vellore. I had zero expectations going in. But I was mesmerized coming out; with the movie playing out in my mind for a week later on.
4. 1996 Independence Day. Woodland Theatre, Madras. My cousin Balaji took me and my brother to the theatre. I was in 10th standard. I was watching an English movie after quite some time. My parents did not put Star/Cable TV in my home. (It's another story that my father scolded me for bringing my friend's cable tv guy in front of him for payment without giving him a heads up). This movie was scary and mesmerizing to me; kept me on the edge of my seat. I was discussing this movie with my classmates for 2 weeks after watching it. To watch the movie, I was looking forward to the evening for the entire day. All in all, unforgettable.
5. Summer 1998. Home Alone 3. Ega Theatre, Madras. I watched it with my school friends. I used to own a Kinetic Honda those days. A lot of fun, a lot of laughter in the movie. Laughed, laughed, and laughed. I also watched Titanic with the same group of friends that summer (1998), but that did not register as much as Home alone 3. Definitely something in that movie. Fast forward to 2017, I watched this movie together with my family. I and my daughter watched it multiple times over, still did not get bored of this movie.
6. Winter 1998 Ronin. I was on the BITS Pilani campus. We used to have both an English and Hindi movie every week screened at the main auditorium by RAC. I still remember that after this never heard before English movie; there was a test the next day. But boy, was I glad to have gone to this movie. The car chase scene in that movie was unbelievable; nothing I had seen so far in Tamil action scenes had been in the same category as the above movie. Once I bought my first DVD player in 2005, this was one of the first DVDs that I had purchased.
7. 1999 Summer The Mummy. Watched it with my brother and neighbor Suchi in a theatre near Vadapalani, Madras. All of us loved it.
8. 1999 Mercury Rising. I believe it was back to back movie screening during/after Apogee. Junta was asked to choose between this movie and Armageddon. I was ok with either, but it looks like most of them had already seen the latter, so this got a louder roar, and with a voice vote, this movie was chosen. Thriller; it kept me on the edge of the seat at that time. If I watch the movie now, probably it will be silly.
9. 2001 Minnale. Pilani Tamil Mandram was screening this movie on QT. The same day in the main theatre in Audi, the Hindi movie Kaho Na Pyaar Hai was playing. Had to pick between this movie and that one. I was having butterflies in my stomach after watching this movie!
10. 2003, My Cousin Vinny. I watched this movie at a friend's house in College Station TX. It was funny. Fast forward, when I watched this movie later with my wife, she loved this movie very much. This is one of her favorites. She always asks to watch this movie when she wants to unwind.
11. 2004. Bourne Identity. I watched this movie with my friend Abhiram at College Station on his computer. It was almost additive when I saw it. This carried/built my fascination for the spy thriller movies - and I faithfully watched every Bourne movie later on multiple times.
12. 2005, 2020. Harry Potter and the prisoner of Azkaban. I saw this movie in 2005 and liked the story; especially the ending. I rewatched all the harry potter movies in 2020 (quarantine) with my daughter. This is my favorite among all of the other Harry Potter movies.